You’re feeling stuck. Again. You have that great idea that’s going to transition you from working for someone else to doing your own thing, but you just can’t seem to get anything off the ground.
It’s amazing how the cycle goes: good idea, excitement, you’re ready to do it… but then nothing happens. Days go by. Months go by. Then, gasp – years go by and still little progress. What’s the problem you ask yourself? You’ve been excited about doing your own thing, you were excited about your idea, so why can’t you just get it together and make it happen!
There are a few things to point out when you find yourself in this situation. The first is obvious: That you’re feeling stuck and you know it. There’s no question that forward movement is not happening in this particular area of your life right now. Another point that may fall into the not-so-obvious – at first glance – category is around how you feel about that thing you need to do. At first thought you think, yeah, it’s totally something I want to do. In fact, I definitely want to do it.
That’s where I come in and say, hold up wait a minute. There’s something else going on here. If you really want to do this, then why isn’t it getting done? What are the barriers? What’s holding you back? Could it be that it’s actually something you’re not really feeling connected to at all, and you’re trying to force yourself to do it for some reason.
And, there it is. That’s what’s been holding you back – you’re trying to make yourself do something that you’re not feeling connected to. Before we go any further, let me say this: sometimes what you feel connected to – like the idea of starting your own business – can be mixed in with something you don’t feel connected to – like doing it a certain way or getting certain tasks done. It’s important to be aware of this so you know how to deal with it when it happens.
When I transitioned out of my traditional career path, I was both excited and really scared. I wasn’t exactly sure of a lot of things, but I recognized that at times uncertainty is all a part of doing something new and different. It’s part of the process. I had a lot of ideas and I was eager to get things moving, but at the same time I often felt like time was passing me by and I wasn’t making the movement that I wanted to be making.
After going through this for quite some time, I realized I needed to just take a step back and figure out what was really going on with me. In doing so, one day I sat down and made a, “What really excites me about what I want to do?” list. I didn’t include what I thought I should be doing or what other people were doing that seemed to be working for them. I just focused on the stuff I knew made me happy and excited to think about and to do.
After completing that list my energy shifted and I re-directed my focus. Instead of fretting over stuff that I wasn’t really into, I got really excited about the stuff that guess what – made me really excited. And a strange thing happened. That not so exciting stuff that kept me stuck in my tracks? Some of it got weeded out into the, I’m not going to try to force myself to do this anymore category. While I surprisingly found myself doing some of the stuff I’d previously been avoiding, because I saw the value of it in connection to what really excited me about starting my business.
What have you been trying to force yourself to do that deep down you really aren’t connected to? How can you shift your energy towards what gets you really excited? I want to hear from you, so be sure to share your responses in the comments section.